I guess it is true in a sense. I am selfish about my time with my husband. Especially since he's been living in another state for the last 7 months.
Aside from that, we have other reasons for waiting to have kids. Some very legitamate and responsible and some not so much. One of the least legit and responsible reasons why having babies freaks me out is this..
What if its ugly?
We've all seen ugly babies. Several of us have even lied and said it was cute when really it wasn't. If you're like me and have a hard time lying about things that maybe you should lie about, you might you might have said "oh...its so...sweet" because that is about the only compliment you can muster for such a face.
I know some of you might gasp at my harsh words..but we've all thought and worried about it before.
& you won't be calling me harsh and selfish when my baby comes out lookin like this:
(that one reminds me of the last slide on this
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Umm....can I just tell you I have the same fear?! Haha! Having an ugly baby is one thing....but what if you know it's ugly?? Makes it ten times worse. I'm with you on the ugly-baby contests!
You know what - good for you, sister!
I think it's awesome that you are waiting. Next time someone else calls you "selfish" - make sure to remind them that you're ONLY 23, and that having several screaming, needy, clingy small humans is NOT what will complete your life before you've even had a chance to fulfill it with your husband before you lose all of your alone time - FOREVER. If you aren't overwhelmed with the desire to have kids then it's probably not your time yet. The fact that you recognize it shows that you are smart.
Additionally....feel free to forward them to information supporting the idea that there is a direct link between women being educated and delayed childbirth. That 'oughta shut them up...when you point out that you're just doing it because you're smarter :)
https://docs.google.com/viewer?url=http://www.prb.org/pdf07/powerfulpartners.pdf&pli=1
I'm all for waiting too if my grandkids are gonna look like this!! haha...
Haha! Nice. I didn't know you guys have a blog, this is awesome! Also having ugly babies is a fear that Brig and I discuss often. I'm 23 too but we aren't jumping on the baby train for a while yet... glad we're not the only ones.:)
Ok BreeAnn you are harlious!!! When I saw the picture I couldn't stop laughing!!! And now am a little worried you are just telling me what a cute Lyric is just to make me feel good???? And your babies will be beautiful!!
I just laughed so hard - You are going to have adorable babies whenever you are ready - (you are never 100% ready anyway -lol-trust me- at least I wasn't) but I am so grateful that Brant and I had some time with just us before we had kids - It made me a better mom I think! Sometimes it doesn't work out that way and babies come quick but I don't think there is anything wrong with waiting a bit and taking a little time for you and Blake. Everyone's situation is different- You rock - Love ya!
I'm with you, I never say a baby is darling if they're simply not. All I can muster is "how sweet...." Let's be honest here, your children WILL be beautiful!!!
Take your time girlfriend, once those littles arrive there is no sending them back. DO NOT get me wrong, I love my daughter more than words could ever express, BUT it is no small task to be a parent, no matter how old or young you are. And I agree, you're never really ready...
With that said, it is the most rewarding and wonderful experience anyone could ever have, no matter what age or how long you've been married. Best to you and Blake! :)
Don't feel bad about being selfish... I just barely had a kid and I'm 27. Being selfish is fun!
Ok BreeAnn...Was this first baby fathered by Mr. Bean? Seriously where did you find this?? Your friends are right. Your time will come for kids. Your children will be beautiful! Miss ya tons!!
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